Comments on Confessions of a Feminist Gold Digger: My life as I know it, is over.

I have always admired your brutal honesty, among m...

2011-08-21T01:42:27.252-07:00

I have always admired your brutal honesty, among many other things, like your perfect makeup application. For all the choices that we made in our lives, all of them are equally important. Even though I have been at the opposite ends of the spectrum about having kids, I have finally settled at the end that is opposite of yours.

But that doesn't make what you so desperately want, to not have kids, any less important or respectable as what I desperately want, to just have a child. We have made these decisions, and that's what we want for ourselves, and we are entitled to them. Good luck, my friend.

After seeing your FB pic, I had to come on here an...

2011-08-17T06:03:01.936-07:00

After seeing your FB pic, I had to come on here and get the scoop. Best of luck to you Sarah. XOXO

PS
And I now I get why you said you got your first negative blog comment. :)

Everyone is commending you on your honesty. I am g...

2011-08-16T12:39:36.513-07:00

Everyone is commending you on your honesty. I am going to be honest too, then. Your husband needs to take that poor child out of what will be a toxic household and RUN. Just because DCFS isn't being called in on a weekly basis doesn't mean the child is in a healthy and nurturing environment. If being pregnant and being a mother bothers you so much, and being a father is so important to your husband, the course of action here is pretty obvious. I am asking you this as the child of a woman who never wanted children: please do everyone the favor of NOT staying in that baby's life.

I agree with ZippyDooDa. It is what you make of it...

2011-06-27T22:34:31.323-07:00

I agree with ZippyDooDa. It is what you make of it - stay away from the glowy "Motherhood is AWESOME! AND EASY!" people... because they don't share the good drugs that put them into that state.

I was not a big fan of kids going into my pregnancy and I'm still not a huge fan of most, but it IS different when it's your kid. I promise. I don't want to blow smoke, just throwing it out there.

Hugs & GL - the honesty is refreshing.

it's all been said up there already. all i can...

2011-06-26T22:46:18.024-07:00

it's all been said up there already. all i can offer is "xoxo, tater" and a color scheme for the nursery.

Wishing you the best. Let's get cocktails in N...

2011-06-24T22:03:56.283-07:00

Wishing you the best. Let's get cocktails in November after this pregnancy shit is over ;)

Just lots of hugs. I'm rooting for you that yo...

2011-06-24T18:08:03.275-07:00

Just lots of hugs. I'm rooting for you that you start to sort of feel like yourself again after October. You know I'm here if you need anything.

WTF do I know, I've never been pregnant but I ...

2011-06-23T09:07:49.955-07:00

WTF do I know, I've never been pregnant but I really loved what ZippidyDoDaa said:

"Parenthood is very much like marriage; entirely what you make of it. Just like your marriage works for you, how you parent is very much your call. Stay away from the uber-Mom's and zillions of parent-as-professional who analyzes every move with their baby. Find your people, you'll feel better for it."

I feel like you need to print this and put it on your fridge, mirror, car, you name it.

It will get better.

Xoxo.

I can't say I shared all of your feelings duri...

2011-06-23T08:30:41.390-07:00

I can't say I shared all of your feelings during pregnancy but certainly many of them. Pregnancy #2 almost led to a divorce but my Doc advised sticking together for the first year post delivery as it was a sensible thing and then reevaluating. By that time we had found our way back to each other.

I wasn't one of those sunshine and rainbows women when pregnant, more of a "get the alien out of me". No pastel colours and yogo wear, photo shoots of me in all my preggo glory. I figured that if women in Auschwitz and earthquake zones could be pregnant, so could I. Medication helped, as well as a handful of good folk who I talked openly with. I still don't really like kids but I do love my kids to their very core. That was a big suprise to me, as well as the swelling of love and kindness towards them.

Parenthood is very much like marriage; entirely what you make of it. Just like your marriage works for you, how you parent is very much your call. Stay away from the uber-Mom's and zillions of parent-as-professional who analyzes every move with their baby. Find your people, you'll feel better for it.

It's incredibly difficult to put your crap out there and I applaud you for it, that took great strength. You're supposed to be on the planet preggo with all it's glory and for those that aren't, it can be a lonely place. Keep talking/ being honest, it will help, honest thomas.

Ditto Jess & Kim! Thank you for always keepi...

2011-06-22T20:35:47.251-07:00

Ditto Jess & Kim!

Thank you for always keeping it real!

Pregnancy is a mind fuck and motherhood is still a mind fuck. I love B with all of my heart and soul, but the first and second trimesters made me extremely depressed, second, third, 44th guess myself if I should continue with the pregnancy and life in general since I kept WTF'ing myself everyday.

I'll be honest during the pregnancy and still now I deal with anxiety and it can sometimes be a bitch, but talking it out has been the most amazing thing.

I hope things get better too. I'm here to talk I'm in MV.
Take care!
PS - I agree with ssinca regarding the lady bits...

Oh girl, I'm sorry you are going through this....

2011-06-22T07:42:58.419-07:00

Oh girl, I'm sorry you are going through this. I truly do appreciate your honesty, it's refreshing. I hope things work out for the best with you. Like someone else said, you are an amazing, sassy, awesome person, so why not pass that on. I think and hope things will turn around for you once the little person arrives. <3 I'm here for you if you need anything at all!

Get a good live in. Make sure she's not Mr Fgd...

2011-06-21T23:06:17.420-07:00

Get a good live in. Make sure she's not Mr Fgd's type. Drink.

H + P, my friend.

I don't think I've even met you in person,...

2011-06-21T21:02:28.196-07:00

I don't think I've even met you in person, but I'm a long distance admirer. :)

This post just confirms that.

I would say congrats but I'm not sure if that&...

2011-06-21T20:54:18.490-07:00

I would say congrats but I'm not sure if that's what you want to hear right now. I hope things do get better for you...just think - you'll have someone to take care of you when you're pooping all over yourself at 90;)

and, just for the record, my lady bits aren't blown out from having a vag delivery. just request the epi ASAP! I felt zero pain and forgot about labor almost immediately. that part is not bad, I promise.

Loved your honesty! I am not the stay at home mom...

2011-06-21T14:43:26.075-07:00

Loved your honesty! I am not the stay at home mom type and am very thankful for my amazing nanny. She goes everywhere with me and I don't care what others say. Best of luck and hope things do go faster. Take all of your leave!

Hugs. I really appreciate your honesty in this pos...

2011-06-21T12:33:56.810-07:00

Hugs. I really appreciate your honesty in this post and hope that writing it and reading all of these supportive comments helps.

I ditto exactly what Laura said. Also...since I&#...

2011-06-21T10:13:21.746-07:00

I ditto exactly what Laura said.

Also...since I'm a glass half full kind of person, I'm determined to believe that you are so fucking awesome that your DNA had to be passed on so that future generations could experience it, otherwise our species would probably just shrivel up and die out purely from lack of awesome.

Hope it gets better lovely. <3

Pregnancy is not all puppies & rainbows even w...

2011-06-21T09:06:04.890-07:00

Pregnancy is not all puppies & rainbows even when you want a kid and I appreciate your honesty.

I really hope that things get better for you and the you and your marriage get through this intact.

<3

Congratulations to you and the Mr! I know you fee...

2011-06-21T08:47:26.008-07:00

Congratulations to you and the Mr! I know you feel like pregnancy/children is a huge burden and I can appreciate your perspective. I have often wondered if women start to feel like they lose a bit of themselves when pregnant and from what you've written, it seems that's the case. I am sure you will love your child when s/he is here, but in the meantime, take good care of yourself and do all the pampering, awesome things that you deserve.

Lots of hugs to you. Good luck!

2011-06-20T23:08:18.537-07:00

Lots of hugs to you. Good luck!

I have a friend who's like us. When she got p...

2011-06-20T21:30:58.047-07:00

I have a friend who's like us. When she got pregnant, she told me that she had been diagnosed...with twins.

She likes her kids. That's enough.

But she still hates all other kids because all other kids suck.

Good luck! I'm rooting for you!

<3 (That means I have no way to relate, but wan...

2011-06-20T20:55:05.782-07:00

<3 (That means I have no way to relate, but want the absolute best for you. Take care of yourself dear.)

I used to dislike kids, too. Especially filthy an...

2011-06-20T19:43:54.453-07:00

I used to dislike kids, too. Especially filthy and disgusting ones. Hell, I still do. But it's different when they are your own. I am sure you'll feel the same way. In the meantime, lots of love coming your way.

This is why nannies are vital to the American econ...

2011-06-20T18:16:28.532-07:00

This is why nannies are vital to the American economy. Get one and life will be oh so good!

I know I personally would probably react the same,...

2011-06-20T17:00:28.377-07:00

I know I personally would probably react the same, shocked as hell to be pregnant. The only thing I can say is you're a fun and sassy lady, and it's never a bad thing to pass on that sort of thing, right? Plus I think eating your young is an insect thing, so at least you don't have to worry about that.

Here's to hoping that you won't help but be able to fall in love with a mini you and Mr. FGD!